Sunday, May 4, 2014

30 Things Life Taught Me # 14 - How Best Emerges from the Worst


In my almost 10 years of working, I stayed in the same company, hopped to different offices and I guess the highlight of everything, survived four different bosses. It does not really count as an achievement or even an accomplishment. One thing I can be proud of myself though, I peacefully parted ways with them. I can still face my previous bosses without a drop of hate or apprehension, except for one because (God bless her soul) she already went ahead to heaven.

On the way home, I happened to land on an FX taxi tuned in to this local FM station. There was a caller ranting about her very strict and annoying boss. I was surprised with the response given by the DJ.

Here’s the edited and enhanced version:

You should be thankful for having a strict, demanding and unappreciative boss. There’s no point of recognizing tasks that has been successfully accomplished. You should never be commended for fulfilling your responsibilities. However, mistakes and shortcomings deserve all the criticisms. We need to be bombarded to improve.

I was expecting some words of sympathy or the very least, a little comic relief from the DJ. Surprise of surprises, the DJ appeared like a spokesperson of all the cursed bosses in the world.

Admittedly, part of me agrees with the response of the DJ. I will not deny that at some point, the strict and unreasonably demanding bosses brought out the best in me.

I had a boss who wanted everyone to speak English at workplace. The good side of such practice; I was able to exercise my communication skills to the language that dreads us even after 10 years of studying it. There were awkward moments but this gave me training before teaching.

Barely months after graduating from college, I had a boss who subjected me to baptism with fire. I was asked to present my first research to the community of employees. Some months passed, I was asked to present the results of a critical study to the members of the management committee. I forgot what stage fright meant. I realized that I was meant for greater things.

I had a boss who was very strict with attendance. Back then, I almost qualified for perfect attendance award. I developed good sleeping habits. I leave home early, I feel more relaxed and refreshed before starting another work day. I escape the unnecessary stresses from the unpredictable travel time from commuting. I was very observant and compliant with company rules.

I survived a boss who was very keen on details. Mastering perfection and infusing a little creativity in preparing technical reports became a habit. This demands time, patience and pressure but at the end of the day, I felt fulfilled for surpassing a great challenge.

I used to belong to an office who handles events and seminars. With a very obsessive compulsive boss, I learned coordination, collaboration and doing things without being told. I overcame my silent personality.

I also remember starting with an office that wasn’t allocated with working scholars or assistants. I managed to accomplish even the smallest detail of my job. I photocopied my own materials. I sort my own documents. I route letters and memoranda across offices and buildings. I do follow up calls on my own.  I survived without depending on other people.

Although at some point I also believe that excessive strictness does not always breed positive things. I had my own share of this injustice. I had a boss whose demands demeaned me. I was losing my self esteem. I suffered emotionally that translated to my health. I had unexplained sicknesses. I lost weight the unhealthy way. Had it not because of my concerned parents, I would not have discovered that I’m an inch away from developing a fatal blood related disease.

At the end of the day, I would like to believe that my strict bosses made me competitive. I didn’t become one of those employees who just exist for payday. My greatest gain and learning from my strict bosses, I was trained to make things happen.

1 comment :

  1. Hi Diane,
    interesting post...all I know is that someone like me needs to be their own boss :)
    Back in the day I encountered ill-tempered, rude and not to mention incompetent bosses, so
    I would probably give a different answer than the DJ. hehe.


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